Frequently Asked Questions
我们不能总是仅仅通过观察一个人的代词来推测他们. 询问并正确使用别人的代词是表达你对他们性别认同的尊重的最基本方式之一.
When someone is referred to with the wrong pronoun, it can make them feel disrespected, invalidated, dismissed, alienated, or dysphoric (often all of the above.)
不用担心别人会根据他们对你性别的看法来称呼你，这是一种特权. If you have this privilege, yet fail to respect someone else’s gender identity, it is not only disrespectful and hurtful, but also oppressive.
She/her/hers和he/him/his是一些常用的代词. 有些人称这些代词为“女性的”和“男性的”, 但许多人避免使用这些标签，因为不是每个使用他的人都觉得自己是“男性”或“阳刚”.”
There are also lots of gender-neutral pronouns in use. Here are a few you might hear:
- 例如:谢伊吃他们的食物是因为他们饿了.)这是一个很常见的中性代词，可以用单数形式. In fact, “they” was voted as the Word of the Year in 2015.
- Ze/hir/hir (Tyler ate hir food because ze was hungry.)“Ze”的发音与“zee”类似，也可以拼写为zie或xe，用来代替她/他/他们. Hir的发音类似于“here”，取代了her/hers/him/his/they/their.
*Never refer to a person as “it” or “he-she”. 这些是针对变性人和性别不一致的人的冒犯性辱骂.
It’s okay! Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. 如果你用错了某人的代词，最好的办法就是马上说出来, like “Sorry, I meant (insert pronoun)”
如果你在事后意识到自己的错误，私下道歉，然后继续前进.
很多时候，你很容易不停地说自己搞砸了有多糟糕，或者想要把事情做好有多难. Please don’t! 这是不合适的，而且会让被性别歧视的人感到尴尬，觉得有责任安慰你, which is absolutely not their job.
Taking an active role in your classes, 你可能会听到你的学生用错了某人的代名词. In most cases, 适当的做法是温和地纠正这些错误，而不要让被误解的人进一步感到尴尬. 这意味着说“Alex使用代词she”，然后继续往下说. 如果其他学生或教师总是对某人使用错误的代词，不要忽视它! 让你的学生知道你是他们的盟友是很重要的.
你可以这样接近他们，说:“我注意到之前有人用错了代词称呼你, and I know that that can be really hurtful. 你不介意我把他们叫到一边提醒他们注意你的代词吧?必要时跟进，但要根据学生的舒适程度来判断. Your actions will be greatly appreciated.
